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shutterstock_168314678If you’re young and single, your phone is the best way to get a date. Services like Tinder and OKCupid have sophisticated apps that allow you to scroll through acres of photos and pages, clicking or swiping when you see someone — or sometwo or three or seventeen — that you like.

If you’re young — and by “young” I’m generously including those in their 30s — you’re likely to have a smartphone or tablet. If you’re old, you’re catching up. The oldest person I know — it’s Peter Robinson, have you heard of him? — refuses to have a smartphone, though I think he might have a tablet. Tablet ownership is growing quickly among the elderly.

So if you’re older and you’re in the dating pool, where do you go to swipe and click on a pretty (or, shall we say, well preserved) face? The answer to that question is a business opportunity that someone is already exploiting. From BetaBeat:

First, you were teaching Grandpa how to Facebook. And now? He’s swiping left and right for romance.

Don’t worry, your grandfather isn’t going to show up in your Tinder feed. He’s off to find a “companion” on Stitch, a soon-to-be-released dating app designed for the over 50 crowd.

The brain child of Aussie Andrew Dowling, Stitch matches local seniors who are looking for “friends, marriage, and everything in between,” the website says. If it’s anything like Tinder, we expect these seniors are going to be a lot more than friends.

Though the app hasn’t been released yet, Dowling says there won’t be a chat feature; these baby boomers would rather speak on the phone. It’s understandable for anyone who’s watched their Grandma type an email, one slow keystroke at a time.

Stitch’s founder argues it’s not just a companionship app — it’s a life saver.

“Believe it or not, for seniors loneliness is a bigger killer than smoking or obesity,” Dowling told VICE. “The reality is that we need to stay socially connected, if we want to stay healthy.”

What progress! Finally everyone at the table can be staring at their phones or tablets!

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  1. Misthiocracy got drunk and Member
    Misthiocracy got drunk and Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    Meetup.com is also a fine place for not-twenty-year-olds to meet other people, however it is not a dating site, strictly speaking. I’m talkin’ about for people for whom loneliness is an issue, rather than an underutilized libido.

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    • June 6, 2014, at 4:07 PM PDT
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  2. EThompson Inactive

    It’s not about the technology; it’s about the personal network systems.

    – I met my husband in the workplace. We knew each other for years before marrying.

    – My grandmothers (college roommates who knew each other for years) introduced their progeny.

    – My uncle (a widower) recently re-married to a longtime friend he knew for years from his country club.

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    • June 6, 2014, at 4:24 PM PDT
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  3. Kay of MT Member

    “Though the app hasn’t been released yet, Dowling says there won’t be a chat feature; these baby boomers would rather speak on the phone. It’s understandable for anyone who’s watched their Grandma type an email, one slow keystroke at a time.”

    Rob, I guess you don’t know too many women who grew up in the 50’s, because all of us were required to learn to type, on an old fashion machine. You know the one with the carriage you had to throw at the end of each sentence? Don’t insult us regarding our typing. It’s the tech garbage that doesn’t let us edit or correct.

     I’ve had more than one job interview where I was asked if I had a “boy friend” to help with my expenses. I usually didn’t did get the job because I would tell the jerk I wasn’t a tramp, and wouldn’t work for anyone who thought I should be and walked out. Have you ever been asked if you had a lady friend to help you pay your expenses? Think about it a few minutes, how would you react?

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    • June 6, 2014, at 4:28 PM PDT
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  4. danys Thatcher
    danys Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    Finally everyone at the table can be staring at their phones or tablets!

    Not the phones because the screens are too #$%^& small!

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    • June 6, 2014, at 4:43 PM PDT
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  5. Guruforhire Member

    #tinderfessions for old people would be gross.

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    • June 6, 2014, at 5:04 PM PDT
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  6. Arahant Member

    Rob Long: The oldest person I know — it’s Peter Robinson, have you heard of him? — refuses to have a smartphone, though I think he might have a tablet.

    Now you’re just being naughty, Rob. Peter isn’t that old. Surely you must know somebody older than eight years your senior.

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    • June 6, 2014, at 5:43 PM PDT
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  7. Arahant Member

    Rob Long: Don’t worry, your grandfather isn’t going to show up in your Tinder feed. He’s off to find a “companion” on Stitch, a soon-to-be-released dating app designed for the over 50 crowd.

    Sorry, Rob. You’re left in the middle. You’ll have to mature a bit before you can use it.

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    • June 6, 2014, at 5:45 PM PDT
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  8. Pencilvania Inactive

    “I don’t like long walks on the beach without my orthotics, pina coladas react with my Plavix, and getting caught in the rain makes my hip act up. If you hate those same things, we just might click. Or it might be my knee replacement.”

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    • June 6, 2014, at 6:36 PM PDT
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  9. Eeyore Member
    Eeyore Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    Rob – Peter is just the oldest-looking person you know. In your neck of the woods, there are folks that started “having work done” back when Peter was in knee-pants.

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    • June 6, 2014, at 6:44 PM PDT
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  10. MLH Inactive
    MLH

    Kay of MT:

    Rob, I guess you don’t know too many women who grew up in the 50′s, because all of us were required to learn to type, on an old fashion machine. You know the one with the carriage you had to throw at the end of each sentence? Don’t insult us regarding our typing. It’s the tech garbage that doesn’t let us edit or correct.

     Here ya go, KT: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qteu4ld_SCE

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    • June 6, 2014, at 6:48 PM PDT
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  11. Randy Weivoda Moderator
    Randy Weivoda Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    I wonder what the ratio is of men to women in the over-60 dating scene? When I was a bachelor (in my 30’s) I used a couple of online dating sites. Out of curiosity I did a search of how many men there were on each site within a certain age range and geographical area, with no other qualifiers. Then do it again but changing man to woman. There were 2.5-3 men for each woman.

    Now shift it up to the over-60 age range and I suspect it would be even more out of balance. On the one hand, men probably start dieing off a little quicker than women by that age. But the bigger factor is the difference between men’s and women’s attitudes towards finding a new partner. I’ve only ever had one married man tell me that if his wife died he’d spend the rest of his life alone. I’ve heard several married women say that if their husband kicked the bucket, they’d never try to find another man. Heck, I’ve heard more than one woman under 50 swear off men forever.

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    • June 6, 2014, at 8:31 PM PDT
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  12. profdlp Inactive

    Following. I don’t have a girlfriend, so I might as well.

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    • June 6, 2014, at 11:09 PM PDT
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  13. Paul Erickson Inactive

    Eeyore:

    Rob – Peter is just the oldest-looking person you know. 

    I think it’s the sweater. 

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    • June 7, 2014, at 4:54 AM PDT
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  14. Paul Erickson Inactive

    Rob – they’re going to need a catchier name for the site. How about “Over 50 Shades of Gray?”

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    • June 7, 2014, at 4:55 AM PDT
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  15. Vance Richards Inactive
    Vance Richards Joined in the first year of Ricochet Ricochet Charter Member

    Just this week I got an email from a web site called OurTime.com. It said “Want to meet singles over 50?” I’m not sure how I got on that mailing list. First off, I’m married, and more importantly, I’m 48. And as any 48 year old will tell you, that’s way younger than 50!

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    • June 7, 2014, at 5:27 AM PDT
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  16. Debbie Stevens Inactive

    The single-but-looking over 50 dating-swiper – I’ll bet that’s a demographic the iPad folks never considered!

    And, yes Vance — this 46 year old is way way younger than 50. But, hey, I’ve got four more years before I have to buy a tablet, right?

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    • June 7, 2014, at 11:10 AM PDT
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  17. Kay of MT Member

    MLH:

    Kay of MT:

    Rob, I guess you don’t know too many women who grew up in the 50′s, because all of us were required to learn to type, on an old fashion machine. You know the one with the carriage you had to throw at the end of each sentence? Don’t insult us regarding our typing. It’s the tech garbage that doesn’t let us edit or correct.

    Here ya go, KT: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qteu4ld_SCE

     I really liked that, it’s been going around for awhile, and I laugh every time I see it.

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    • June 7, 2014, at 3:00 PM PDT
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  18. Gazpacho Grande' Coolidge

    This isn’t helping me land a date, grey or not. Wait. My grey hairs make me look distinguished; is that what we’re talking about here?

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    • June 7, 2014, at 4:56 PM PDT
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  19. Fred Cole Member

    “Over 50” is an interesting demographic.
    Someone who is 50 was born in 1964.
    Someone who is 60 was born in 1954.
    Someone who is 70 was born in 1944.
    For our purposes, lets call that the majority of the “Over 50” crowd.
    If you were born in 1964, then you were in college in 1984 and in the prime years of your career in 1994. You certainly know how to use a computer.

    If you were born in 1954, then you also in the prime years of your career in 1994. You certainly know how to use a computer.

    If you were born in 1944, then you were in college in 1964 and you were still ten years from retirement in 1994, so you had to learn how to use a computer.

    My father was born in 1952, the youngest of five. All his siblings used (Uncle Bud died in 1989) or use a computer today. They may not all have smart phones (for various reasons) but they have computers.

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    • June 8, 2014, at 4:37 AM PDT
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  20. Fred Cole Member

    To be blunt: It’s hard sometimes to keep up with all the latest stuff, but old people know how to use computers now. Computers have been in common just for just that long.

    And to be even more blunt: They may not know what Tinder is (I suspect most people on Ricochet don’t know what it is, the concept, when I first heard of Grindr, shocked even my
    sensibilities) but Viagra has revolutionized sex among elderly people, so if they wanted to, they make use of Tinder.

    I’m weary of watered down tech alternatives for the “Over 50” market. Seems really patronizing to me.

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    • June 8, 2014, at 4:38 AM PDT
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  21. Fred Cole Member

    Peter, if you’re reading this, and you have a tablet, and that tablet is an iPad, and you’re comfortable using it, and you like using it,

    An iPhone is the exact same thing, except smaller and with a phone in it. That’s it. There’s nothing more to it than that. A smart phone is just a tool to make your life easier, like a socket wrench or a bugler’s kit.

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    • June 8, 2014, at 4:43 AM PDT
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  22. Stad Thatcher

    Does this means Rob’s next book will be titled “Fifty Dates of Grey”?

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    • June 8, 2014, at 5:50 AM PDT
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  23. Pilli Inactive

    Fred Cole:

    Peter, if you’re reading this, and you have a tablet, and that tablet is an iPad, and you’re comfortable using it, and you like using it,

    An iPhone is the exact same thing, except smaller and with a phone in it. That’s it. There’s nothing more to it than that. A smart phone is just a tool to make your life easier, like a socket wrench or a bugler’s kit.

     As someone for whom 50 is a relatively distant memory, I can assure you that most of my peers use smart phones. What we don’t do is spend every waking moment using them. We have the ability to actually leave them at home when we go out. We learned how to live our lives when we had to share a corded phone with the rest of the family.

    I find it much more enjoyable to actually talk face-to-face with someone as apposed to talking on the phone. It’s also more enjoyable to talk to someone on the phone rather than texting them. The personal is always more satisfying than the impersonal…at least for me.

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    • June 8, 2014, at 2:51 PM PDT
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  24. Fred Cole Member

    I feel the same way, Phil. I was addressing Rob’s comment about Peternot having a smart phone. 

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    • June 8, 2014, at 4:33 PM PDT
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  25. Arahant Member

    Eeyore: back when Peter was in knee-pants.

    Speaking of old, how old does one have to be to use that phrase, or more importantly, have actually worn knee-pants as a boy?

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    • June 8, 2014, at 9:24 PM PDT
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  26. Arahant Member

    Fred Cole: I’m weary of watered down tech alternatives for the “Over 50″ market. Seems really patronizing to me.

    Good of you to defend us, Fred.

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    • June 8, 2014, at 9:30 PM PDT
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